It is the season of giving, so today I have for you ten things that I am currently obsessed with. In case you want to buy me stuff, or need gift suggestions, or want to do some holiday shopping for yourself! These are some of my tried and true favorite things!
1. Defy Nail Polish.I discovered this brand at Target when I couldn’t stomach forking over $10 for Essie (my former go to brand). I am now obsessed with Defy. It goes on so easily and lasts a long time. I am tough on my nails, but my manicures have been holding on for at least a week, even with chasing a toddler and setting up a wedding. New favorite brand!
2.The Lunar Chronicles Series. I don’t know how it took me so long to read these books, but I freaking love them. They are sci-fi adaptations of fairy tales, and they are so well written. I have read all of them but the final book, which I am anxiously awaiting as we speak!
3. Romeo and Juliet. Okay, so this one isn’t totally new, but I’m experiencing a resurgence of my love for R and J. I love Shakespeare and R and J was the first Shakespeare play I ever read. I have been rereading the play and watching as many versions as I can. I was not super impressed with the latest Broadway production, Orlando Bloom was one of the few bright spots (and not just because he’s super delicious) but I’m going to cleanse my palette with the Leo version soon.
5. Vanderpump Rules. This again, is nothing new. I have loved VPR from the beginning (as a former waitress, I can attest to it being one of the realest reality shows there is). Now that I am an avid listener of Stassi’s podcast I feel like I have a whole new insight into the cast and their relationships and I love it!
6. Owl Crate. If you are a frequenter of my blog then you have probably happened upon one or more of my Owl Crate reveals. Owl Crate is a subscription box for young adult lit fans like myself and it just keeps on getting better and better. The theme for the December box is Epic and I am so excited to see what it includes!
7. Chapstick, the original. Now that it is winter, my lips have been dry AF and I freaking hate that feeling. I used to use a lot of the trendier “all natural” lip balms, but they seemed to make my lips drier, not more moisturized. So I went back to the original brand and I have been loving how my lips feel!
8. The Crown. I have always been a fan of British history, so I was super psyched to see the trailers for The Crown on Netflix. Well, I of course flew through the first season in a matter of days and now I am waiting on pins and needles for season two–which doesn’t come out for a whole year!
9. Michael Kors Crossbody. This is the perfect bag for a day at Disneyland with Squirt. I can put all my big items (emergency kit, glasses case, etc.) in the diaper bag, but I don’t like leaving my wallet in the stroller when we go on rides. This bag is perfect because it holds my wallet and my phone and it stays out of the way and keeps my hands free to deal with the little dude.
10. Home Goods. From what I can tell, Home Goods stores are not in all areas of the country, and I feel so bad for those of you who may not have access. Home Goods is a discount store selling–wait for it–goods for the home. They have the best selection of cute mugs, plus so many other awesome and unexpected goodies like stationery and kids’ books. It’s basically my favorite store.
Well, that about covers my current obsessions. What are you currently obsessed with? Let me know so I can find some new obsessions for next time!
A couple of months ago, Matt and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary. It’s hard to believe we have been married for five years already, time has flown by! We have been very lucky to experience a lot of wonderful things over the last five years, but as with every marriage, we have had some hurdles to overcome. I have definitely learned a lot during the course of our marriage, and some of the things I have learned are not necessarily in line with “normal” marriage advice. And because I like to go against the grain, I’m going to share what I have learned about marriage in the last five years.
The first year of marriage ain’t that hard. Why do people always talk about how hard the first year of marriage is? For us, it wasn’t in the slightest. Now we (like most couples these days) had been living together for two years by the time we got married, and that definitely played a role in the ease of the transition (though I didn’t really find the first year of living together to be that challenging either); our first year was a lot of newly wedded bliss. I happened to see one of my former couples at another couple’s wedding last week and I asked him how married life was. His response: “Nothing has really changed, so it’s great!” Obviously something has changed–they’re married–but for couples who are already living together and have a committed relationship, nothing about getting married affects day to day life. Now there could be some life circumstances in the first year of marriage that make it more challenging–having a kid, losing a job, moving, etc.–but really the first year on its own is awesome.
Sometimes it’s okay to go to bed angry. The number one piece of advice people give newlyweds is “don’t go to bed angry”, and it’s not always great advice. I am an emotional person, and there are times I get irrationally irritated about something so ridiculously small that even I can’t believe it. If I find myself super annoyed with Matt, I try to sleep on the problem and see how I feel about it in the morning. Nine times out of ten, I can’t even remember what had me upset in the first place. And the one time out of ten I actually have a real issue, I have a clearer head after a good night’s sleep and can articulate my feelings much better.
Do what works for you, not what works for others. Matt and I have been living together for over seven years, have owned two houses together, and have a child, and yet, we still have completely separate bank accounts. We have a system that works for us, and even though it is not conventional, it (I think) has helped our marriage. Even though we still consult each other before big purchases, we each have the freedom to spend our own money as we see fit. We each contribute to the family finances in a way that we feel is fair. This is an issue that is specific to us, but this is a general piece of advice. Don’t feel like you have to do everything the way you are “supposed” to. There is no set plan for how a marriage has to work, so do whatever is going to work for you and your partner.
Communication is key. All right, so this is a pretty common tip, and it’s one I fully believe in. You can’t expect to have a successful relationship if you don’t talk to each other. Not just about things that are upsetting you, or things that may be problems in the marriage, but about the good stuff too. It’s important to talk to each other about your daily lives. Even if it’s just the mundane, everyday details, sitting down and having a conversation is a way to connect with your partner and share with each other.
Make time for each other. It’s sooooo essential to take time out of the sometimes overwhelming tasks of life to spend quality time with each other. Go on a date, stay home and watch a movie, do whatever you both like to do. Carving out that alone time keeps your connection fresh, and it also helps keep the lines of communication open (which we already know is important!)
Having kids will change things. I guess this one is kind of a duh, but it’s also two sided. Matt and I have never been the type to bicker, but it in the first three months of Squirt’s life, we snapped and snipped at each other constantly. We were sleep deprived, exhausted beyond belief, and overwhelmed by all that comes along with having a baby. And we often took that out on each other. Once Squirt started sleeping better, the snipping and snapping went back to normal (as in, extremely rare), but there is still from time to time some resentment when it comes to childcare responsibilities. Now I have to be clear about this: Matt is an extremely involved father. He is an awesome dad and he takes on a lot of tasks that I know other dads do not, and I am so grateful for that. But since I am home with Squirt every day, sometimes I feel like I am doing more than my share (I’m not, it just sometimes feels that way), so some resentment can build. I will say, there has been less and less of the resentment as Squirt has gotten older.
On the flip side, there have been few things in my life that bring me as much joy as watching Matt and Squirt together. Seeing them play and roughhouse and read together, makes me happier than anything on the planet. I have loved Matt since very early on in our relationship (three weeks in, to be exact), but I have never loved him as much as I do in those moments. If we had decided not to have kids (which we thought about), I would have obviously still loved Matt, but there is something much deeper about our connection now that we share a child.
Supporting each other is key. Matt and I are both creative people, and we both ended up in the teaching field because we wanted the stability of a career and the freedom to still express ourselves. The education field has turned out to be much different than we thought, which is one of the main reasons I decided to leave teaching, stay home with Squirt and build my wedding planning business. I could have never made that leap without Matt’s support, both emotionally and financially. He now has different financial burdens he has to deal with, but he has supported me 100% the entire time. There is a decent chance that Matt will leave teaching eventually to pursue his creative aspirations, and then it will be my turn to show him that support.
Taking time for yourselves is just as important as spending time together. I firmly believe that having a life independent of Matt’s helps make our marriage stronger. We each have our own friends, and our own hobbies that we devote time to outside of our couplehood. This does so much for us on so many levels. It makes us appreciate the time we do spend together and it makes us fulfilled as individuals.
And perhaps my most controversial lesson: Marriage shouldn’t be hard work. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone say “Marriage takes a lot of hard work”–and each time I have thought, “Really?” Our marriage takes effort. We have to find time to spend together and find ways to connect and communicate while we both work and raise a child. But I would never describe my marriage as hard work. To me, effort is something much different than work. I have been in relationships in the past that did feel like work. Meaning, I was constantly putting in effort and feeling like I was not getting anything back in return (to be fair, I’m 99% sure my former partners would say the same thing about me). I have never felt like that with Matt, when we were dating or since we have been married. Will there be times in our marriage that it does feel like work? Who knows. I’m sure there are things that could happen that would make it feel like work. But for me, after five years, I would say it’s not hard work for me to have a successful relationship with my husband.
Before I sign off, I asked Matt what he had learned about having a successful marriage to see if I could incorporate some of his ideas into this post. His tips for a solid marriage: “Don’t be a dick, do nice things for each other, be cool about stuff, and have lots of sex.” I needed 1500 words for my tips, and he needed 20. So there you have it.
What are your tips for a happy marriage, or what have you learned about relationships? Share your lessons!
I know, I know, if you are a frequent reader of this blog (and if you aren’t, welcome!) you are probably looking at the title of this post like huh? Yes folks, I Falon, lover of all things girly, sparkly, pink, and Disney, kicked some serious ass at fantasy football last year. Last season was my first time partaking in fantasy football, and I did so mainly to annoy my husband. And it worked. Because I took first place in our league. How bout them apples? (That was the nice way of saying “Suck it bitches!”.) Now, while I am a huge lover of college football, the NFL is not my thing. So other than having a decent knowledge of the rookies, I didn’t have a lot to go on when it came time to draft my team last year. I did a bit of research and learned the standard tips, which I will share with you, but I also picked up some tips of my own along the way. Hopefully these will help you draft a kickass team of your own!
Don’t draft a quarterback first. If you are someone who doesn’t watch a lot of football, you probably know the quarterback to be the leader. This is true, but you don’t need to draft a QB in your first round (in fact you shouldn’t). Most people will draft a running back in their first round. I would recommend doing that, or taking a wide receiver if you can get a really, really good one. You should aim to take your first quarterback in round 7 or later.
Mix and match your quarterbacks. You will want to draft two quarterbacks and I recommend picking one solid one and one who is a bit more of a risk. Last year I drafted Eli Manning (not the best in the league, but someone who has experience and is mostly consistent) and Marcus Mariota (a rookie). Mariota was a huge standout in college, but you never know how someone is going to transfer over to the NFL, especially in his first year. Mariota was a risk, and one that paid off. He had several high scoring games for me, and no one really expected him to do that well. (Note: pick your solid quarterback BEFORE you take your risky one.)
Tight ends are underrated (hehehe). I mean, in more ways than one, am I right? But seriously, most people won’t pay a ton of attention to their tight end pick, and mine ended up being a huge point scorer for me last year. I will probably draft a TE in an earlier round than many others so I can get the one that I want.
Pay attention to bye weeks. Each team in the NFL has a week where they don’t play, which means if you have starters from those teams, you will need to swap them out for your bench players. If you have multiple players who have a bye the same week, you are going to be low on options and that is no bueno.
Defense and kickers come last. Sorry boys, but these positions just aren’t that important in the grand scheme of fantasy football. Defense might seem like a big one since it’s, you know, half the game, but if your defense gets you more than ten points in a week, you’re looking good. Wait until the end to draft these spots.
Don’t go in blind. Some people go a little crazy in terms of research and strategy for a fantasy football draft. You don’t have to spend hours reading up, but at least peruse some articles out there on the tops picks for this season. Whatever league you are in should have some info available on rankings, make sure you read through it once or twice before your draft.
There you have it! This year I will be participating in not one, but two fantasy football leagues and I am hoping to repeat my win! I will have at least one more blog post coming your way with tips for success throughout the season, so come back soon! Have you played fantasy football before? Who’s your top choice?
Well folks, it’s that time of year again. Time to celebrate everyone’s favorite holiday: my birthday. Okay, I’m not really that obnoxious. I know no one gives a shit about my birthday but me and maybe Matt (and that’s really only because he has to) but I love my birthday and if I want to celebrate it for a whole month, I will. I do what I want! I put together a little wish list so that anyone who wants to buy me a present (I’m looking at you, Husband) knows exactly what to buy me! And I totally will not be offended if you just buy this stuff for yourself, because it’s awesome and I don’t blame you. Should you want to send one of these to me, just email me for my address ;o)
I am obsessed with this collection of Harry Potter books. They are so beautiful and I love the colors. This set would make a really cool addition to my bookcase and I will get them at some point because they are so awesome.
I am, as you know, obsessed with pineapples right now. I know that the rest of the world is too, which is cool because it means they are everywhere. I am all about the pineapple accessories and I love this necklace!
Kate Spade is my spirit animal and I love everything in her collection. I am super into all of her office supplies because I love all office supplies, and pretty office supplies are the best. Also, I like need them for work and stuff.
A new tattoo. It has been a few years since my last ink (since before Squirt was born) and I am jonesing big time. I think I will be waiting until after our last scheduled trip of the summer since new tatts need to avoid sunlight and pool/ocean water, but I definitely want one. Soon. It will either be a Harry Potter or Disney one, haven’t decided yet.
I could go on and on and on about things that I want/need in my life, but I don’t want to be too big of an asshole so we’ll leave it at five. What do you want right now? Any other July birthdays out there? Happy birthday month!
I don’t know about you guys, but I tend to go in waves when it comes to things I enjoy. I’ll become stuck on one thing for months on end, get tired of it and switch to something new. Today I am going to share with you some of my current obsessions, along with some things I have been stuck on for years (and those are the things you should pay attention to because if it has lasted, it has to be good). If you want to be super awesome, click the links and purchase some of these goodies for yourself (and by doing so, you’ll also throw me a few pennies, which I totally appreciate).
1. Throne of Glass Series by Sarah J. Maas: I just finished the third book in this series, and I am totally hooked. The fourth book is currently only available in hardback so I’m going to try to hold out as long as I can before I buy it (all the other three I have are in paperback and I need my series books to match…because I’m anal like that). In the meantime, I’ll have to satisfy my needs with the prequel, which I picked up the other day. If you’re into young adult lit or fantasy/adventure, definitely pick this one up.
2. The Straight Up with Stassi Podcast: If you know me, you know I am a reality TV whore (just keep reading) so I already knew and loved Stassi since she is head bitch in charge on Vanderpump Rules. Her podcast is hilarious, especially since many of her guests are female comedians. She talks about all kinds of pop culture stuff, including lots of other reality TV shows, and it is super fun to listen to all her stories and insight.
3. Spray Sunscreen for Kids: Squirt has been spending tons of time outside this summer and if you have ever tried to lotion up a wriggling toddler, you know what a nightmare sunscreen can be. But we live in So Cal and it is hot AF right now and sunscreen is a must. Luckily, some genius invented spray sunscreen, which, my kid at least, thinks is hilarious. Also, it’s way faster and way less messy/greasy than the old fashioned stuff.
4. The Bachelorette: It wouldn’t be summer without The Bachelorette and so far I am loving JoJo. However, her men kind of suck. I don’t trust any of them at this point, and my favorite, Wells, was sent home in the last episode. #sadface The rest of the guys seem like assholes (I’m sure they’re lovely in person, but I can only judge based on what I see on my TV).
5. Vintage Real Housewives Marathons: Oh Bravo, how do I love thee, let me count the ways. Lately Bravo has been blessing us with some super awesome marathons of early seasons of my favorite Housewives franchises. Now, I have watched the Housewives since the beginning so these are episodes I have already seen, but it has been absolutely fabulous to watch them again, ten years later. I totally forgot how batshit crazy Alex and Simon are.
6. The Schick Hydro Silk Razor : Ugh. Summer is here and that means I actually have to shave on a regular basis. Booooooo. I freakin’ hate shaving. Luckily, a while back I got to review this razor and I have actually gone back and purchased it on my own several times since then. The best thing about this razor is that you don’t need any kind of shaving cream or soap, shave gel is built into the razor itself. Also, it has like 20 blades (or like five) so I’m usually good with one swipe. Anything that makes the shaving process easier is a win.
7. Blue Nail Polish: Okay, this one is totally random and I have no idea where it came from since I am typically ride or die pink when it comes to my nails, but lately I have been drawn to the blue. It’s currently gracing my nails and I think it will be on my toes the next time I find a minute to give myself a pedi.
8. HGTV Magazine: I love this magazine, and it is one of the few I actually buy on a regular basis. I am mainly drawn to the bright colors, but I also love it for the awesome DIY tutorials and projects you can find inside. The only bad thing is that it makes me want to redecorate my entire house every time I read a new issue.
9. Healthy Sexy Hair Soy Tri-Wheat Leave In Conditioner: Despite the super obnoxious long name, this leave in conditioner is the shit. I became addicted to it when I worked a short stint at a beauty supply store, which was awesome because I got a sweet discount. Since then, I have tried other leave ins, mostly because I spent a lot of time being broke, but nothing has ever come close to this stuff. In the summer months when I am in the sun and the pool all the time, this conditioner saves my hair. Also, you should totally buy it from Amazon (click the link!) because I just spent $17.99 for a bottle at Target and it is only $11.00 on Amazon. Boo me.
10. Owl Crate Subscription Box: Seriously, I am in love with this subscription. I have never signed up for a subscription service before and this was the first one that really piqued my interest enough to sign up. I just received my third box and it was my favorite one yet. I am already counting down to next month’s box!
What are your current obsessions? Anything you can’t live without that I should try? Let me know!
As I’m sure you have realized, summer is upon us. In the past, summer meant a lot of sleeping until noon, day drinking, and doing all kinds of cool shit that you just can’t do during the school year. Now summer means finding activities to keep Squirt happy and occupied, preferably with air conditioning. (You know what I just realized? My whole life is now like summer! No school ever again!) Lucky for us, we live in one of the most entertaining cities on the planet, and despite the fact that I have lived here my whole life, there are tons of LA things I have never done. So I put together a bucket list of items for us to do this summer. Most of them will involve Squirt, but some will be just for Mom and Dad, because sanity is important y’all. Some of these things I have done before, but a lot of them will be new experiences (some it’s been so long it might as well be new). I’m sure I will be blogging about most, if not all of them, so stay tuned to see how they go!
Attend a comedy show: There’s about a billion comedy clubs in LA, and while I have seen improv shows, I have never seen stand up, so that’s what I would aim for.
Take Squirt to a Dodger game: He did make it to two last year, but he is much more aware now so I think he would have more fun. Also, I must do everything in my power to make sure he doesn’t turn out to be a stinky Giants fan like his dad.
Go to the LA Zoo: I haven’t been in forever, and Squirt has never been, so that should be a fun first time experience.
Go see Shakespeare in the Park: The Independent Shakespeare Co. does some really stellar Shakespeare productions at one of the coolest parks around, can’t wait to see what they do this summer.
Go to a concert in the park at Descanso Gardens: We love Descanso during the day, so I’m sure their evening concerts will be great!
Read four new books: This one actually seems daunting, to be honest.
Have a picnic at the Griffith Observatory: Some of the best views in LA!
Go to a concert at the Hollywood Bowl: We did just see The Little Mermaid there, but I would also like to attend a concert that is part of the Bowl season.
Try three new restaurants: In LA that should be easy, but I don’t like change, so we’ll see how it goes.
Eat lunch at the LA Farmer’s Market: Eating is involved, so it must be a good one.
Go shopping at the Melrose Trading Post: I’m not sure how I haven’t already done this, but this one will be new for me.
Go to the Last Bookstore: Again, not sure how I have not been to this place, but I’m looking forward to it!
Take Squirt to the LA Children’s Museum: This one was a fave of mine as a kid, but I haven’t been in years.
Take a walk along the Venice Boardwalk: The site of my first tattoo….we’ll leave it at that.
Go wine tasting in Malibu: No explanation needed.
Rent a paddleboat at Echo Park Lake: I’ll leave the actual paddling to Matt, obvs.
Boom. Summer planned! Let’s see how many of these bad boys we can check off the list! If you live in LA, or are visiting this summer, feel free to print out the checklist and join me on my quest!
Hey y’all! It’s been a while since I did one of these bad boys, so I thought it was time for a check in. This is how I’m rolling right about now!
Making fabric covered Minnie ears. I have a problem. Drinking one of my favorite summertime drinks: Corona Light with lime and salt. Reading the Throne of Glass series, which is really good so far. Wanting a vacation!. Playing lots of podcasts, mainly Straight Up with Stassi and the Bitch Bible. Wishing I were lounging by the pool with a cocktail!
My office is coming along!
Enjoying The Bachelorette…so far. Waiting for a really awesome package that I am super excited for. Liking my new subscription to Owl Crate. Wondering how life as an entrepreneur is going to treat me. Loving blogging for myself bitches. Oh, and cussing. Hoping for lots of work over the summer. Needing a massage. For reals. Wearing flip flops. Because once I break them out, I refuse to go back to real shoes.
The Owl Crate Young Adult Lit subscription box is my new favorite thing.
Following everything/one related to Game of Thrones. Noticing that Squirt may have inherited my stubborn streak. Knowing that everything will work out in the end. Thinking about finances, and advertising, and taxes…the joys of starting a business.
Basically my motto in life.
Anticipating lots of summer trips. Celebrating Squirt’s second birthday! Laughing at my kid. I mean with my kid.
So close to the perfect selfie. So close.
Feeling relieved, anxious, hopeful, excited, free and positive.
My last day of teaching was three days ago and it was a bittersweet day. But mostly, I am so excited to be my own boss and do something (actually many things) that I really love. I can’t wait to see what comes next!