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Reality TV: My Thoughts on Southern Charm

To celebrate the return of Southern Charm, I’m sharing my thoughts on the first three seasons, which I binged last summer (also when I wrote this post). Catch Southern Charm on Bravo on Monday nights.

Hold onto your horses y’all, because this is gonna be one hell of a post. About a week ago I decided to listen to my trusty reality TV gurus, Jackie Schimmel of The Bitch Bible and Stassi Schroeder of Vanderpump Rules and Straight Up with Stassi, and give Southern Charm a shot. Stassi in particular has talked about it a lot on her podcast as of late and while I had seen a couple of episodes, it had never really grabbed my attention before. But it’s summer, which means I’m staying up late, and so rather than be productive during those midnight hours, I figured I would spend my time binge watching three seasons of a reality show. And it was so, so worth it. I am hooked. I finished the final episode of season three last night and I am already having withdrawals. Thank God The Bachelorette is on tonight. Anyway, because this is my blog and I do what I want, I’m going to share my thoughts on all three seasons of Southern Charm with you. And hopefully it is enough to convince you to go out and watch so I have someone to talk to about my newest obsession.

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Season 1: Not going to lie, it took me a few episodes to really get into Southern Charm. I almost stopped watching, but thank God I hung in there. Around episode 4 is when I really started to get into it, and from there I was hooked. Some thoughts on Season 1:

–Why do they have this weird tendency to call it French kissing? Like I haven’t heard that term/phrase used since elementary school, but this seemed to be a pretty common way to refer to making out. Is this a Southern thing?

–Patricia is my new idol. For so, so many reasons. Calling martinis medicine? Awesome. Having a dressing drink? Awe-inspiring. Employing a butler to bring me said dressing drink? Life goals.

–Why do these men constantly act like little boys?

–Cameran is my girl. Though I hate how she eats like a frat boy and stays stick thin. Not fair.

–Why is Jenna always wearing one leather glove a la Madonna in the 80’s?

–Why do they keep referring to Planet Hollywood as some big successful restaurant chain? Are there any Planet Hollywoods still open?

–I have never seen anyone use a shoe horn before.

–Why do many of these people constantly sound like they are drunk? Are they actually drunk or is just the accent?

Overall: So no spoilers here, but the end of this season is what really convinced me to keep going. Cameran refers to it as the Hot Mess Express, and she is right. I was extremely excited to see what happened in Season 2.

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Season 2: Since Season 1 ended with a somewhat shocking revelation  (assuming you know nothing about the show or the cast members), I jumped right into Season 2 as soon as I finished with the first one. Thoughts on Season 2:

–Thomas and his raise the roof ad is the most ridiculous thing I have ever seen. I live in LA and would consider myself to be pretty liberal. I would not vote for that man. I can’t imagine any South Carolina conservatives watching that and being like I want that guy to represent me. WTF?

–“Shepistotle”…hilarious. Also, I think we got a much better sense this season of how intelligent these guys really are, which leads into…

–Vocabulary. These cast members (well, most of them) are clearly very well read and well educated. They use words that I have never even heard of. I actually feel like I’m learning something while watching.

–Whitney was a huge dick at Craig’s parents’ house. Because I listen to Stassi, I knew going in that Whitney is an executive producer on the show. That seemed like a very calculated move to stir some shit up, and I think that is lame on his part.

–Charleston Academy of Domestic Pursuits. I mean, seriously? How is this a thing? I’m all for cooking lessons, but domestic pursuits? WTF?

–Shep was a total dick at the auction. Shep, you were jealous of Craig. Just admit it and move on.

Overall: There were some great moments in this season, but watching Kathryn run down the dock in her fur coat screaming at Thomas was one of the highlights. I feel like so much of what she does is exaggerated for the cameras, but I love it anyway.

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Season 3: Oh, I have so many thoughts on the most recent season. I have conflicting emotions on a lot of things that happened, and about a lot of the people involved. Hopefully this all makes sense. Let’s start out light:

–Patricia saying “I have no interest in an inferior martini” is the best thing ever. Me neither, Pat, me neither.

–I feel like this is the only reality show on TV where the women actually eat, which is refreshing. However, I am so jealous of how they eat compared to how freakin skinny they are.

–I now want to host a flamingo party.

–Landon and her magazine = delusional. You have an okay idea (certainly not one that hasn’t already been done) and you have all this time to prepare a pitch and you can’t even come up with a mock website? I mean, eleven year olds can create their own website in like a half an hour. Join the 21st century and start a blog, Landon. The good news for you is even if it sucks, you’ll still get tons of traffic because you’re on TV.

–Shep’s red bowtie/cummerbund combo at the Founder’s Ball. I felt like I was at prom.

Now let’s get serious.

–Kathryn and Thomas. The South’s own Romeo and Juliet. I go so back and forth with these two. On the one hand, I do feel like Thomas made some promises (and on camera nonetheless) about taking care of Kathryn and the kids that he (to the best of my knowledge) has not kept. He clearly has enough money to be providing a very stable life for his family. On the other hand, if Thomas is (as he claimed at the reunion) paying Kathryn’s $3100/month rent AND the salaries of the nannies (because you can’t have just one) then Kathryn needs to shut the eff up. There are thousands of single mothers out there making do with WAY less, in terms of money and support, so it is hard for me to feel sorry for her on that front. Also, it does not cost more than $2500/month to raise a child. Trust me, I’m doing it in one of the most expensive cities in the country for much less. I do feel for Kathryn when it comes to the group because they were kind of assholes to her for most of the season, but she certainly doesn’t do herself any favors when it comes to her image. She showed up at the reunion looking like she was heading to the local Ren Faire with her handmade choker (she’s starting a business!) and basically acted crazy the whole time. Had she been calm and mature and maybe slightly coherent, she would have fared much better.

–Landon. I really liked Landon in Season 2, despite her constant awkward giggles, but in Season 3 she really pissed me off. First, her “career” conversations were just annoying. Like I am all about being creative and finding your passion and blah blah blah, but be an adult and pick a path. Do something. Second, I don’t know how you can say you never did anything to Kathryn when you talked shit about her the whole season, didn’t invite her to Shep’s birthday even though he specifically asked you to, then lied about not inviting her to make it look like she just didn’t show up. That is junior high level cattiness, and despite Thomas acting psychotic at that dinner party, he was right when he called you catty and you deserved that. Plus, you totally slept with Thomas and the fact that you continue to lie about it makes you look pathetic. YOUR friend said “Is Landon finally going to admit she slept with Thomas.” There is no speculation there. She stated it as a fact. It happened. Stop lying.

–Cameran. Despite my instant love for her at the beginning of the series, I was annoyed with Cameran most of this season. Again, while his delivery was way off, when Thomas called her sanctimonious and judgmental, he wasn’t wrong. Not wanting to be around Kathryn and Thomas is one thing, but to straight up refuse to go to coffee with Kathryn was just mean. Maybe if you tried being nice, you could be a good, calming influence on her.

–Whitney. Never been a huge fan of Whitney, but I totally believe Kathryn when it comes to the extent of their relationship. She has no reason to lie about it, and he does. Plus the small bits of footage they showed (again, remember he is an exec producer so he has some say it what gets aired) definitely supported Kathryn’s claims that they had more than a one night stand. I’m #TeamKathryn on this one.

–Shep and Craig. You’re adorable and I love you. I think it’s admirable that you at least attempt to include Kathryn and defend her, even if she doesn’t always make it easy on you.

Overall: While a large part of me does feel bad for Kathryn, I also have a hard time being sympathetic because she is a huge part of the problem. Not getting pregnant is not rocket science, and you did it not once, but twice, with a man you knew was going to be difficult. I really hope they get their custody shit taken care of before next season because those parts are hard for me to watch. Once you become a parent you lose the right to act like a child all the time (once in a while is okay) so I feel like they both need to get their shit together and focus on being good parents. And everyone else needs to stay the hell out of their relationship and stop being such jerks.

Needless to say, I am beyond excited for the next season of Southern Charm. There is a good chance I will rewatch the first three seasons before then because that’s how strong the addiction is. The struggle is real y’all.

Have you watched Southern Charm? Let me know your thoughts, I need some fellow watchers to debrief with!

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California Adventure Food and Wine Festival Highlights Part One

Hello friends! Despite the fact that I have been battling this nasty cold/cough/sore throat for what seems like forever, I have managed to make it to the Food and Wine Festival at California Adventure twice now. BUT I have yet to drink any wine!!! WTF. Also, I am way behind on my checklist. I have a full day trip planned for next week, so I am planning on getting myself a wee bit tipsy imbibing on all the drinks on my checklist, but for today, I have a few food highlights, plus some AP info to share with you.

This year, I decided to buy the AP Sip and Savor pass. I did not get it last year as it seemed like it wasn’t worth the price. However, this year, you get eight food items (no alcohol) for $45, which works out to be about $5.50 per food item. Most of the main food samplers are $6-$9 so this is a good deal. But I am being careful to only use my tabs for the items over $5.50 (some of the desserts are less than that) and pay cash for anything that is under that cost. The bonus is that each time you use a tab at a booth, you get a different AP button (I think they are leftover from previous AP days).

The first two items I tried were the Chicken Teriyaki Slider and the Pineapple Strawberry Float, both from LA Style. The float was super yummy and refreshing, which was awesome as it has been so warm lately. It does have boba in it, which is not my fave, but the flavors were good. I also enjoyed the slider. The pineapplely salsa on it was tasty and I was a fan of the teriyaki sauce. Pineapple and teriyaki is one of my favorite flavor combinations so I was all about it.

The next thing I tried was the Vanilla Bean Creme Fraiche Panna Cotta from Olive Us. This was pretty tasty, though the texture was not my favorite. The cookie was really yummy, so of course Squirt ate most of mine.

This is the Baked Ham and Swiss Croque Monsieur from Nuts About Cheese. Super yummy! I mean, you can’t really go wrong with bread, ham and cheese. This might be my favorite item so far.

Finally, I sampled the Sweet Corn Nuggets with Beef Chili from Off the Cob. I’m not a huge sour cream fan, so I could have done without the sauce on top, but in general, I liked this one. The corn nuggets were good. but the chili was pretty average. It did have a little spice to it, which I enjoyed with the sweetness of the corn.

I still have a lot of food items to try at the Food and Wine Festival, along with lots and lots of yummy drinks! Have you been to the festival yet? What do you think I need to try?

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Beauty and the Beast at the El Capitan

So I, along with the rest of the planet as it seems, saw Beauty and the Beast this past weekend. Unlike many of the planet, I was lucky enough to get to see the film at the El Capitan Theatre in Hollywood, aka the home of all Disney movie premieres. I love going to the El Cap and I try to see as many Disney movies there as I can. The theater itself is historic and beautiful, and they always have awesome costume and prop exhibits, along with pre-movie entertainment. My thoughts on the movie are coming in just a few minutes, but first, I wanted to share with you some highlights of seeing BATB at the El Capitan.

The first thing I noticed when I walked into the theater (I literally stopped and said, “Oh my God”) is this amazing Swarovski crystal curtain designed just for Beauty and the Beast. Pictures cannot capture the dazzling effect of this curtain. It sparkles and shines and changes color with the lights and it is absolutely breathtaking. Seriously, I need one of these in my house. It’s amazing and you have to see it in person to really appreciate it!

Before the movie begins, there is a short projection show on the curtain, displaying some imagery related to the movie.

And as always at the El Cap, movie goers are treated to a half hour of organ playing from award-winning organist Rob Richards. For BATB he took us through several Disney movies, ending with BATB’s animated counterparts Little Mermaid, Aladdin, and Lion King.

In the basement of the El Capitan is a display of costumes and props from the movie. These were some of my favorites:

Cogsworth costume and prop…

Belle and Beast costumes from the ballroom scene…

Lumiere costume and prop…

Steins from the tavern scenes…

And the famous rose (this one can be found in the theater lobby)…

Of course, the main attraction at the El Cap is the showing of the movie, Beauty and the Beast. I had some hesitation about the film going in, mainly due to the fact that I have been burned by some movie musicals in the past. Honestly, I’m glad I did have some hesitant feelings because it meant that I wasn’t disappointed. Let me be clear–I loved the movie. Visually, it is one of the most beautiful films I have ever seen. If they don’t win every visual effects and cinematography award out there I will be shocked. It’s breathtaking. I also LOVED the additions made to the story (which I won’t detail in case you haven’t seen it); I thought all of the added information made sense and helped answer some questions left by the animated film. Luke Evans as Gaston and Josh Gad as LeFou were the highlights for me, along with the fab Audra McDonald as the wardrobe (who in this version gets to sing, which is awesome). Dan Stevens as the Beast was also good, as were most of the supporting players.

So for the real question plaguing all of us musical theater peeps: How was Emma Watson? Love you girl, but she just didn’t do it for me musically. Belle is not an easy part to sing, and it was clear that Emma just doesn’t have the chops. I loved her acting performance and I loved the feminist angle that I’m sure she helped influence in the film, but she’s just not a great singer. What bothered me the most was how much you could tell they had altered her singing. It sounded false and kind of electronic. I also did not like how they seemed to use the same effects in some of the other songs (like “Be Our Guest”) thus making amazing singers like Ewan McGregor sound not as good as he should have. Really, Emma’s singing was the only thing about the movie that I didn’t love and I kind of got over it after the “Belle” reprise (where her lack of vocals was most glaringly obvious). But I would have preferred to see one of the many actual talented stars out there from the world of Broadway in the role. Let’s put it this way: I would not go out and buy the soundtrack from the film, I would much rather listen to the Original Broadway Cast recording.

I don’t want to end on a sour note, because I really did love the movie, and I will probably see it again in the theaters. This is a film that needs to be seen on the big screen, and I honestly don’t feel like anyone could leave the theater after seeing it and feel disappointed. I’ve been to a lot of midnight showings/opening days, and I think there was more enthusiastic applause at the end of Beauty and the Beast than I have ever heard before. If you are in the LA area, I highly recommend taking a trip to the El Capitan to see BATB, but if you’re outside of So Cal, any movie theater showing is totally worth the price of admission.

Have you seen BATB yet? What did you think?

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It’s the Ten Disney Commandments

If you don’t get that reference from the title, you should probably just leave now (just kidding, don’t actually leave, but go listen to Hamilton immediately). So the idea for this post popped into my head a couple of weeks ago after some particularly good and bad interactions at Disneyland and I just kind of ran with it. And I’m pretty sure these commandments will now be posted at the entrances of all Disney Parks because they are that good. If all Disney Parks attendees could adhere to these ten commandments of park going, we will all have a pleasant and enjoyable experience. Consider me your Moses of Disney (and I legit just had to Google who found the ten commandments #neverreadthebible #sorrymom).

Thou shalt not judge parenting skills. Look folks, not gonna lie. I used to be hard core judgy of parents at Disneyland…you know, before I actually had a kid. My kid is relatively well-behaved at Disneyland because we are usually there for three hours and we go all the time. However, it is completely NORMAL for young kids to be having total meltdowns at the parks. They are overstimulated, overtired, and cranky AF. Instead of judging the parents of said kids, buy them a beer. They deserve it. Also normal behavior for kids at a theme park: running away, touching everything in sight, colliding with strangers, crying, whining, demanding food/drinks, complaining, refusing to walk, and refusing to ride in a stroller.

Thou shalt not walk with more than three people in a line. And honestly, three is pushing it, but I know that there are groups of three at the park and no one wants to walk by themselves. So three people deep is the absolute max. If you are in a group of five people walking in a straight line down Main Street, we all hate you.

Thou shalt not ask park-related questions of ticket takers at the park entrance. There are literally hundreds of cast members inside the parks who will be happy to answer your questions. Don’t hold up an entire line of people trying to get into the parks. Also, at every turnstile there is a stack of maps and entertainment guides, with pretty much everything you need to know right there for you.

Thou shalt not cut off strollers. I, along with many other parents, have a stroller AND know where I’m going. I walk with a purpose and I walk quickly (#cardio). If you step in front of my stroller, don’t expect me to be able to stop my momentum. You’re likely going to get hit. And don’t even think about giving me a dirty look after I run into you.

Thou shalt always help other Disney goers in need. Hold doors, give directions, pick up dropped items. Do nice things for other people. Parents, when unloading strollers from the tram, work together to lift them. If you see a mom searching for wipes in the bathroom, give her one. Disney should bring out the best in all of us.

Thou shalt always have your Fast Pass ready. This commandment is mainly for California Disney peeps. You will have your FP checked when entering the line. You will need it again about halfway through the line when a cast member collects it. Have it ready! If not, you will hold up the line that by definition is supposed to move fast.

Thou shalt not stop in the middle of a walkway. This may be my biggest pet peeve ever, anywhere, but mostly at Disney Parks. If you need to stop walking MOVE TO THE SIDE. I don’t know why this is hard to understand, but for the love of God, it is not cool to stop in the middle of a crowded, moving walkway when there are hundreds (thousands?) of people trying to walk behind you. I will make a snotty comment under my breath if I see you stopped in the middle of the path.

Thou shalt keep all slow traffic to the right. Building on the above, if you are someone who wants to stroll leisurely through the parks (by all means, that is your right), then stay to the right hand side of the path. Think of Disney walkways as freeways. Slow people, stay the eff out of the way.

Thou shalt always be nice to cast members. I have been going to Disneyland for a long ass time. I have NEVER had a CM just be rude to me for no reason. Ever. Even when they are telling me something I don’t want to hear, they are still ridiculously nice about it. So there is no reason to be a jerk to cast members. If they are telling you something that you don’t like, they are only relaying the information they have been told to give out. Sometimes different CMs will have conflicting information. I know how frustrating that can be, but it’s not their fault. They don’t make the rules, they just enforce them. Write a rude email when you get home if it’s that bad, but do not abuse cast members in the parks. They are doing the best they can with what they are given. And on the flip side, if a cast member goes out of their way to do something awesome for you, email or tweet about that so they can get the recognition they deserve.

Thou shalt not be that AP. You park regulars know who I’m talking about. Answering a question or pointing someone in the right direction is awesome (see the helping others commandment), but there are APs out there who hear a simple question (“Which way to Pirates?”) and launch into a diatribe about every detail of Pirates they know. It’s obnoxious. Don’t be that guy.

Now if everyone could just follow these ten simple rules, we’ll all be good to go! Any commandments you would add to this list?


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Owl Crate Subscription Box: February 

Guys, today is the first day in about two weeks that I have felt like an actual human being. I have been battling the worst cough/cold/sore throat and I have been sicker than I have been in a long time. Boo. So today I am playing some major catch up and finally getting around to a couple of blog posts that I have been planning for some time and just haven’t had the mental wherewithal to actually write. Today’s is my February Owl Crate reveal, which is so late that it will shortly be followed by my March Owl Crate reveal since that box should be on its way soon! But I definitely wanted to share this box with you because it was an AWESOME one. I feel like I am repeating myself every month, but these boxes really do get better and better each month. So let’s take a peek at February’s Circus themed box!

So for the first time ever, I actually guessed the book for this month correctly! And I was so excited to see it in the box because I was planning on buying it anyway! Caraval by Stephanie Garber has been hyped as the next Night Circus, so I am definitely psyched to read it. And now that I don’t feel like poo, I might actually get some reading done!

The little goodies in this month’s box were some of my favorite ever. I love when I get items that I will actually use! Attic Journals provided this cute playing card notebook and I LOVE these circus themed page flags from Girl of All Work. And the lip balm from Geek Fire Labs is doughnut flavored y’all. Yeah, it’s as awesome as it sounds.

My favorite item this month is this Night Circus inspired tote bag from Evie Bookish. I am a tote bag whore, and I especially love literature bags, so this one is my new fave. And this Le Cirque des Reves inspired candle from Frostbeard Studio smells divine.

All in all, it was an amazing box this month and I am so thrilled with everything I received. March’s theme is Sailors, Ships, and Seas. I have no idea what to expect from the March box, but I’m hoping for some mermaids! If you would like to check out Owl Crate for yourself, please use this affiliate link and help me earn some free boxes! Any guesses as to what book will be in next month’s box?

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Let’s Get Prepped for the 2017 Food and Wine Festival

The 2017 Food and Wine Festival begins today at California Adventure, and I am so excited! I had a blast at last year’s festival, and from the looks of things, this year is going to be even better. I decided to do a couple of different things this year to make sure I am ready to fully embrace the festival. One was creating a pair of wine-themed ears and the second was creating a printable checklist of the tastiest sounding food and drink item offerings. Both of which I am going to share with you!

First, the ears. I found this fabric months ago at JoAnn and have been holding onto it, just waiting for the festival. I used the same method on these ears as I did in this tutorial here. I used a rhinestone trim for some extra sparkle and I am so loving how these guys came out!

The second thing I decided to make was a food and drink checklist. Last year I enjoyed hopping around to the different booths and trying random items, but I think I missed out on a lot of goodies because I didn’t have a clear plan of attack. So this year I created a list with both food and drinks to try and what booths I can find them at. This is a fraction of what is available at the festival, I just picked the yummies that sounded most appealing to me personally. There is a good chance I will try some additional items, but these are the ones I want to make sure I don’t miss. This is the list I came up with:

2017 food and wine festival checklist

If you would like to download the checklist and print one for yourself, click this link! I am going to be checking out the festival on Sunday, so make sure you are tuned in to my Instagram to see what delicious offerings I sample this weekend. And make sure you come back soon to get the full rundown from this yea’rs festival. Are you planning on attending the Food and Wine Festival? What do you most want to try?

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A Day Without a Woman

For me personally, one of the many pitfalls of the current American political situation is that I can’t seem to stay away from it. Despite several promises to stay off social media unless it pertains to work, I just can’t seem to tear myself away. And while some of the tweets and articles are uplifting (#resist), most of them aren’t. Earlier tonight I fell down the rabbit hole of #adaywithoutwomen and I was honestly just disgusted by what I was reading. Not going to lie, today’s protest was not well organized. I don’t think the message of the movement and the reasoning behind the protest was well articulated, and it certainly wasn’t communicated effectively. And just to be clear, I receive multiple newsletters from feminist organizations, and I didn’t feel super informed about the mission for the day until today. So I get that there is some confusion. I get that there is the feeling that this particular protest leaves out a lot of women who can’t afford to take a day off work (and again, that wasn’t the intention of the movement, it is more a result of a failure to communicate). But the amount of hate out there is sad. And it’s really sad that so much of it is coming from women, directed at women.

Just some of the gems I found while perusing Twitter, along with many claims that sexism doesn’t exist

I just don’t get it. The same thing happened after the march in January. I would have loved to have been able to attend the march, but Matt had to work, and I didn’t feel comfortable managing Squirt and a stroller by myself on what I knew would be standing room only public transportation. I didn’t have a lot of anxiety about Squirt being at the march itself, but I did have anxiety about managing a rowdy toddler on my own in a massive crowd. So I didn’t go. I made the best decision for me and my family (#feminism). Not one of my friends, colleagues, or peers put me down in any way shape or form for not going. But I did see plenty of people attacking those who did choose to go and march, many of them women. And it blew. my. mind. Trust me, I am so happy that there are women out there who have never been sexually harassed at work. I think it’s awesome that there are women who have never been made to feel less than because of their gender. I wish I were a woman who has never been made to feel ashamed of my body–because teachers, employers, family members, peers, and colleagues have been making me feel uncomfortable and sexualized in my own skin since I was twelve. So believe me when I say that I am thrilled that there are women out there who have never had to deal with even the most minor of sexually degrading comments. But trust me, you women saying you didn’t need the march because you are equal and have never been the victim of sexual discrimination, you are in the minority.

And just for the record, if you are a woman living in the United States, you are not equal. Period. According to the World Economic Forum’s annual Gender Gap Report, America is ranked 45 out of 144 countries when it comes to gender disparity. Ranked above us are several countries in Africa and South America, along with most of Europe. The report, for which research is conducted by an independent and non-partisan firm, looks at four major areas–healthcare, education, economy, and politics. The US is actually ranked number one in education (well, tied with 23 other countries for number one), which is great. We are 26 when it comes to economic participation and opportunity. When it comes to health, we are 62. This means that 61 other countries provide better access to healthcare to their female population than the United States. This area takes into account the mortality rate (breaking it down by specific causes of death), and also includes all maternity care, and damages done by incidents of domestic violence. The final area countries are scored in is politics, which is where we received our lowest ranking, 73. This score is based off of the number of female representatives (or in our case the lack of female representatives) in our government. So for those who choose to shoot down feminists in America because women in other countries “have it so much worse”…..um, not so much. Are there countries where it is worse? Duh. No one would argue with that. But we have a long way to go before men and women in America are “equal”. If you would like to check out the full report for yourself, here is the link to the Global Gender Report.

Okay, so maybe issues of healthcare, education, economics, and politics don’t matter to those tearing down and demeaning feminists. Let’s move on to sexual assault and rape. According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, one in five American women will be raped at some point in their lives. One in ten American women will be raped or assaulted by her partner or spouse. One in four girls will be sexually abused before the age of eighteen. Rape is the most under-reported crime in America, with approximately 63% of cases not being reported to the police. Here are just a few reasons why victims choose not to report their rape to the police: they needed to protect themselves or others in their family from retaliation by the offender (especially prevalent since eight out of ten rape victims know their attacker), they believed the police would not believe them or help them, they felt it wasn’t important enough to report, and they didn’t want to get their attacker in trouble (RAINN). And here is what happens when victims do report: Out of 1000 rapes, 310 are reported to the police, 57 of those will lead to arrest, of which 11 cases will be turned over to prosecutors. From there, seven will be convicted of a felony, and SIX will do time. Let’s repeat that: FOR EVERY 1000 CASES OF RAPE, SIX WILL END WITH THE RAPIST SERVING TIME. Please see this link from RAINN for more information.

Last year many in the country, including conservatives, were up in arms (and rightly so) over the ridiculous sentence of Brock Turner, a college student convicted of rape. Though he legally could have been given up to ten years in prison for his crime, the judge instead sentenced him to six months. He was released after serving just three. We were all outraged. I don’t know a single woman who, during that week or so of social media blasting, said “Eh. It’s fine, he only deserved three months.” And yet, here we are just months later and women who are standing up for the rights of all women are being told that we are equal and we don’t have anything to fight for. Am I living in some sort of alternate universe? Because just a few months ago we were all demanding harsher sentencing for sexual assault, but now marching for women is whining? (For sources relating to Turner’s conviction, click here; for sources relating to Turner’s release, click here.)

So here’s the deal for today. My day is going to look much like any other. I work from home and run my own business, and I take care of my kid. I will still attend to my business because I need to. I will still take care of my kid because I need to. I won’t be doing any shopping or spending any money, and if I actually change out of my pajamas, I will be wearing red to show my support for the movement. If you are a woman and you decide to go to work today, I’m not going to yell at you or shame you because I trust that you are smart enough to make the right decision for you. However, if you are shaming women who decide to take part in the protest, then I’m probably gonna come at ya. Unless I can actually manage to stay off social media for the day (unlikely), in which case, I will probably have a peaceful day.

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