As I’m sure you have heard a hundred times, whether you have a kid of your own or not, being a mom is both the hardest and best thing I have done in my life. There were many parts of motherhood I was prepared for (no sleep), but just as many came as a total surprise. These are the five most important things I have learned in my first five months of momhood!
1. The worrying will never stop. Each stage of Squirt’s life seems to come along with new worries. In the beginning, I worried about him gaining enough weight and suddenly not breathing in his sleep. Now as he is becoming mobile, I worry about him falling down and hitting his head. One day I will be worrying about him getting into a car accident or having his heart broken. According to my mother, the anxiety that comes along with having a child never goes away.
2. Watching your baby do just about anything is the most entertaining thing in the world. I am someone who constantly has a million things going at once. I’m on my laptop, watching TV and texting all at the same time. But there are few things that can capture my attention like sitting and watching my kid. Whether he is rolling around on his play mat or chewing on one of his toys, it is fascinating to observe his every move.
3. It will become practically impossible to gross you out. I used to gag at the mere thought of cleaning up poop–I would go to great lengths to make sure the hubs was in charge of doggie clean up. The other day Squirt pooped on the changing table while I was in the middle of changing his diaper and I barely flinched. I am constantly covered in spit up and drool, and honestly, I don’t even care. Bodily fluids have become a part of my daily life.
4. Your relationship with your significant other will change. I have been lucky enough to have that change be for the better, but I know from hearing friends’ stories that that is not always the case. My husband is an amazing father and was a huge help after Squirt was born, especially since I was recovering from a c-section and could barely walk for the first two weeks. I don’t know how I would have done it without his help. But our relationship has definitely changed. We have to make more of an effort to spend time together and sometimes, we have to fight the urge to want to kill each other. Despite the tough times, seeing the way the hubs and Squirt interact has been one of the highlights of the last five months.
5. Your body will never be the same. Even though I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight, I still can’t fit into my old pants. My body shape has changed and it will most likely never go back to the way it was. When Squirt was about three months old, I started losing gobs of hair. It has slowed down a little, but I am still losing more than I was before baby. I now have stretch marks and saggy boobs and a scar across my tummy and all of those other lovely consequences of pregnancy you hear about, but certainly don’t picture happening to you. But the real lesson you learn is that none of that matters.
Of course you hear about it from many sources before you have kids: the overwhelming love that cannot be put into words. And it’s true. I love that kid more than I ever thought possible, and it makes any downsides to giving birth and having a baby 100% worth it.